Be sure you put your feet in the right place, then stand firm. – Abraham Lincoln
Over the course of the last few years, somewhere along the line, I lost my capacity to stand on my own two feet. I arrived at a place where I no longer believed I was “enough” or honestly, strong enough to do so. I suddenly looked around one day and realized I was knee-deep in codependent relationships; where in some cases, my less effective ways of being in the world were being enabled and in others, I was actually the one doing the enabling.
Part of my healing over the past few months has had me holding up the proverbial mirror and being brutally honest with myself. Tough stuff? You bet. In seeking to empower myself (mentally, emotionally, soulfully, and financially), within my relationships, I have been both humbled and liberated. And in some instances, a change or a letting go of certain relationships has been necessary to create the space for exploration and growth.
The reward? In moving through this journey I feel myself cultivating far healthier relationships and a greater sense of autonomy, authenticity, balance, and freedom. Additionally, I am finding my voice and learning to articulate my needs; kindly, clearly, confidently, and consistently. As with anything else it takes practice to shift behaviors and to support positive, permanent life change. One thing I know for sure…the landing and standing on my own two feet is beginning to feel pretty damn awesome!!!
Thus my wish for you is simply that you choose to hold yourself always in the highest esteem and that you continue to fall madly, deeply, and unwaveringly in love with yourself. With this delightful treasure tucked securely in your self-care arsenal, balanced, mutually rewarding and inspiring relationships then become the icing, maybe even the cherry, on the cake of YOUR SWEET LIFE.
Gratitude. Love. Namaste.